This is the most important and helpful thing i have learnt so far this year!
Until I started seeing my therapist in January, I really really struggled with winding down. I was constantly doing something and felt guilty for sitting and watching TV.
I used to spend my whole weekend cleaning our house top to bottom and going out, to the point where I was exhausted when Monday arrived. As i work full time, i felt as though i couldn’t relax at the weekend, this was wasting my time off in my eyes.
When i started seeing my therapist for pre DBT assessment she was shocked at the fact that i couldn’t sit still to watch TV. She talked about how important it is to wind down and find something calming to do that you enjoy. It’s as easy as that.. But i think i had to hear it off someone first before i could relax.
Don’t get me wrong – I don’t spend all my time reading and relaxing, I still struggle, but I’m a lot better at enjoying time with myself now without feeling guilty.
I still clean at the weekend, but i just limit the time in which i give myself to do so. I’m finally starting to have stable hobbies for the first time EVER which include reading (a lot) and drawing.
Since i’ve started reading, my anxiety has been better to handle. I now spend my weekends at the library in peace, instead of pacing around my house!
I do struggle with watching tv, it has to be a series as if i know whats coming, i just get bored and can’t sit and watch, i lose interest super quick!
So please, schedule some time in your week for yourself, read a book, go for a walk, listen to some music, just do you. Put yourself first. At the end of the day, In order to get better, you must look after yourself x